Single mother life - The perks, the jerks and the what nots

Holy Mother of God! 

Here I was comfortable with my life, writing blogs, running a kids music tutorial studio, spending time with Summer (Miss ALMOST two). Then ...... One day... I found out:

I'm PREGNANT! !! !! Again!!

Excitement, tears of joy set in with such a lot of Happiness (and hormones I guess).

Turns out someone else didn't want another one. ......

So after a long and exhausting relationship, I packed up the car, packed up Summer and....


I bloody well left that jerk. 



It's now almost 3 months later and Holy Mackerol am I having fun!!!!

I've taken up studying full-time, moved into my little flat with Summer and found out:


ITS A BOY!!!

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I thought I would share some things with my fellow readers, mums and such that I have learnt from single motherdom:

• You are it -- there is nobody else to take over mum duties
• Mothers do not get sick
• If mothers do get sick, they can't stay in bed all day
• Bed is a forbidden place between 7 am - 7 pm
• There is no paper, scissors, rock --- You ARE getting up
• You are "Dead on your feet" 5 seconds after you put them to bed
• You will develop more patience
• Friends will appear when you thought you had none
• Other Friends won't want to know "a single mother"
• The same applies to family
• Life gets harder
• Life gets easier
• You will cry more
• You will smile more
• You will love more
• You will make more effort 
• You will worry more
• Child-free weekends will consist of house-work and sleep
• You will be able to fit more into your day than Jack Bauer

Just remember, most importantly:

You can do it! 

Lets see if I hold the same opinion in 18 weeks when child #2 arrives!

5 Programs Mothers just have to watch!

You know those times when your baby/toddler/child has just quietened in the night, and you have period between this time and bedtime and you are flicking through the channels and nothing is on. Well I have decided to pop up my 5 favourite programs, so you can get recording and use this brief window of time wisely. Feel free to pop anymore below that you think us mothers would enjoy.

ARROW

Season three has just begun and life is good. You  will fall in love with EVERY character on this show..... maybe not Laurel and Sarah but mostly EVERY character on this show. You will find all your lesbian tendencies hanging out for Felicity and find shirtless males EVERYWHERE! Even the villains are good looking in this series! It involves a seriously heavy plotline that involves twists at every turn.

Basically Oliver Queen, a billionaire spoilt brat, was stuck on an island for 5 years and now he's returned to make amends for his father's selfish actions. 

As for Stephen Amell (Arrow/Oliver Queen) .......if there is one thing you do after reading this blog, it's follow his facebook page.  He just finished raising money for F*CK CANCER, after selling some "arrow" things to raise money for JoJo (a child suffering from cancer) and a family before that. He runs his own facebook page and has the most beautiful family!

NZ- Thursday nights 9.30pm (after THE FLASH also another program to watch)

REIGN

Romance, swordfights, mystery, the plague, hot frenchman, empowered women. This series has it all!

The costumes are beautiful, the characters are beautiful. It's basically centered around the lives and affairs of Mary, Queen of Scots and her time at French court. It's severely unpredictable, which I love, and just really fun to watch. Completely historically incorrect but it makes for an awesome TV show.

NZ- Returning soon to PRIME

UNDER THE DOME

I thought I would struggle with the plot of this programme, but I can't get over how much I enjoy this show! Stick a whole town under a dome and see what happens and so much does. It  keeps you guessing with every episode. There isn't heaps of eye candy but enough to get by.

NZ- Wednesday nights 8.30pm PRIME

DEVIOUS MAIDS

Come on, we all know you enjoyed Desperate housewives until about Season 3 when it just got really boring. Well the good looking pool boys and gardeners are back, except it is from the perspective of the help.More scandal, murder, affairs and all those other things that make us appreciate how good and easy our real life relationships are!

2 BROKE GIRLS

You have to get in on this comedy, its so funny, non-offensive and just so relatable for us poor people. You will fall in love with Max and learn to laugh at short men! Some light relief with a cool storyline......

Praying for the Agnostic Smoker

I've only prayed for something I really want 5 times in my life. You see we never went to church when we were little and we certainly weren't made to pray for anything as we were fully blessed with everything thanks to our hard working parents.

The first time I prayed was when I was about 8 and REALLY wanted the lead in the school play even though someone else had already been given the girl lead. Low and behold 3 weeks later after many a tantrum; I was given the boy lead solos!! Pfft! What did I care, I could pass off as a guy at that age quite easily and I ruled at it.

The second time I prayed was at the age of 10 when mum had been diagnosed with terminal cancer. (Let's just put it out there; she never smoked). She was only given a few months to live. I prayed that her time on earth could be stretched so we could spend more time with her.

The third time I prayed wasn't long after, just before turning 12. It was horrible to see mum in so much pain as she battled, I just wanted it to stop. I also realised that the last prayer was extremely selfish of me. 15 months after her diagnosis the cancer won it's battle. I think back now and maybe I should have prayed for a miracle.

The fourth time I prayed was after 6 years of trying to conceive a baby at Age 22. Summer arrived by my 23rd birthday.

The fifth time I prayed was just over a week ago; I asked for help, I needed help. The week before I had to scrounge every last cent from the couch to attempt to buy some milk for our daughter. It was horrifying knowing that we had smokes to last yet not milk. I wanted to quit. I'd done it before while pregnant but had taken it back up with ease. We are back at the same position this week but our baby unfortunately has to go without (luckily at toddler stage so it's okay) until payday.

Last week I started feeling ill every time I had a puff. The prayer had worked, now to stick with it. I want every last cent of my smoke money to benefit my child and to make up for the hideous mistake I made of taking smoking up.

Don't judge me ---- be with me on this journey as you all have been with me before!!

20 Things All Women Do

Sex-Positive Parenting Rocks

I just read the most interesting blog today:

"We Don't Touch our Vulvas at the table." This Sex-Positive Mom rocks

My poor dad was left with my sister and I when I had just reached the age of 12. Let's just say I was extremely lucky not to be pregnant a lot early than 23 :) I really want to build a strong foundation of great self-esteem and amazing confidence for Summer for when she grows up but I can't do that if I'm contradicting myself by telling her there are parts of her that she should be ashamed of!

So now I'm taking the time to become more Sex-positive educated so I have the right lessons to teach Summer at the right stages :) If she asks I will be honest and tell her no such cabbage and stork fairytales. I want her to be able to ask me anything.

Anyway make sure you read the blog linked above, it's a real eye opener.
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And please let me know  any opinions or advice you might have about the subject!!!

Gorgeous Pasta in a Bunnykins bowl

Ever feel like you skimp out on your dedication to good tasting food just because you have a toddler who lacks food appreciation skills. I think there it's really never too early to teach your wee one what excellent tasting food is. Plus they will also enjoy participating later on! I made this Beef & Tomato Homemade Pasta for us for lunch today! All for less than $8 and it was gorgeous! Find the recipe below. BTW no technical machines are required just a bit of love and patience!

 

 Chop 1 clove of garlic

 Melt dollop of butter and 1 tablespoon of oil in a fry pan and heat up until pan is "Steak cooking temperature"

*Temp trick if you can hold your hand 1 inch above the pan for more than 10seconds without pulling away it isn't hot enough

Make sure your piece of steak (topside or rump) has sat at room temperature for about an hour before cooking for best quality!

  Line a board for your dough with baking paper, it makes the whole job easier. Make sure it's secured underneath.

 Place 2 cups of flour and 1/4 of a teaspoon of salt in the middle of the board and make a well.

 Whisk 3 eggs, 1 tablespoon of milk and 1 teaspoon of Olive Oil together.

I always use one duck egg for flavour and colour.

 Add steak to pan, fry for about 4 minutes on each side then cover with pot lid for 3 minutes.

 While steak is cooking add egg/milk combo gradually into the centre of the well. Go around the edges and combine it well without letting it spill over the side. It takes a little bit of patience.

Once you have a sticky dough flour your hands and the board and get to kneading. Continue kneading for 5 minutes

Best way to Knead. fold half towards you then push away from you with the heel of your hand, half-turn and repeat.

 Once it is suitably kneaded and is smooth, wrap tightly in plastic wrap and rest for 15 minutes.

 Retrieve your steak from the pan and let it rest.

 Add a can of italian tomatoes to your steak pan, 2 TBSP of tomato sauce, 1 TBSP of soy sauce, 1 tsp of sweet chilli sauce and 1 1/2 TBSP of gravy. Simmer and leave to reduce slightly

 Slice the steak into very thin little chunks once rested
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 Add steak to sauce on the stove and leave to simmer. Add seasoning to your taste.

Once the meat is suitably juicy fish the meat out with a little bit of the sauce and set it in a bowl to cool.

 Add one cup of water to the remaining sauce and leave to simmer on the stove on a very low heat.

Put a large pot of salted water onto boil on the stove

 Roll out pasta with rolling pin as thin as possible without breaking. Cut into strips and gently place in some of the cooled steak and tomato mixture.

 Place it into the boiling pot of water. Don't overcrowd the pasta pot!

 Once the pasta start to float add it to the sauce pan and let it soak up all the juices.

 

Warning: The picture below shows all that will be left of your restaurant quality meal :)

 

Fifty Shades of Grey Movie! --- Why I'm Looking Forward To The View

I definitely think as mothers it is very important that we discuss this! Fifty Shades of grey has just released the movie trailer and it looks "AMAZING!!!"

After Sons of Anarchy star decided he couldn't handle the jandal, I never thought they would find a replacement. Well let me just say, they certainly have, Mr Tall-Dark & Handsome looks like he has a date with me next Valentines Day (Release date) and he certainly won't be stood up.

The book series by E.L James came to my attention a few years ago when my employer (yes you heard it right) recommended them to me and even lent me her copy. It wasn't so much the "Romantic storyline" that I read it for but the pure honesty of the fantasies of other humans. I was curious to read the nitty and gritty parts of the "forbidden" subjects which were written so enticingly lets just say Summer was born 9 months later!

Now I know you all say "I read it for the storyline" Good luck trying to convince me of that. Who doesn't like to escape reality every now and then, it certainly isn't something to feel ashamed of! Hell it was dubbed Mummy porn for a reason.

The movie looks exceptional, the music "Crazy in Love" really spells out the hidden themes, secrets and excitement in one crazily short trailer that leaves you wanting more. The cast is perfect and the acting looks incredible. When I turn up on Valentines day, I want to get swept up in the magic of it all and it looks like it will definitely be possible!

It was written from Twilight fan-fiction, You can't possibly pretend to like it!!!! Who cares? You're husband definitely won't be complaining and some of my favourite recent movies stemmed from Harry Potter and the likes fan fiction.

So when you decide to purchase that cinema ticket or DVD later next year, remember everyone secretly loves it and Mr Tall-Dark and Handsome on big screen is just waiting for you!